the stories we shared

if nothing else i want to deconstruct the way i see the world, and build it from scratch. join me.
wired:


We are hopping into strangers’ cars (Lyft, Sidecar, Uber), welcoming them into our spare rooms (Airbnb), dropping our dogs off at their houses (DogVacay, Rover), and eating food in their dining rooms (Feastly). We are letting them rent our cars (RelayRides, Getaround), our boats (Boatbound), our houses (HomeAway), and our power tools (Zilok). We are entrusting complete strangers with our most valuable possessions, our personal experiences—and our very lives. In the process, we are entering a new era of Internet-enabled intimacy.

[MORE: How Airbnb and Lyft Finally Got Americans to Trust Each Other]

wired:

We are hopping into strangers’ cars (Lyft, Sidecar, Uber), welcoming them into our spare rooms (Airbnb), dropping our dogs off at their houses (DogVacay, Rover), and eating food in their dining rooms (Feastly). We are letting them rent our cars (RelayRides, Getaround), our boats (Boatbound), our houses (HomeAway), and our power tools (Zilok). We are entrusting complete strangers with our most valuable possessions, our personal experiences—and our very lives. In the process, we are entering a new era of Internet-enabled intimacy.

[MOREHow Airbnb and Lyft Finally Got Americans to Trust Each Other]

(Source: Wired)

humansofnewyork:

"My parents were immigrants from Vietnam. They’d been through a war, and they didn’t want their child to go through the same hardships they went through, so they tried to control my life as much as possible. For them, control was love. But I had to move away from it."

humansofnewyork:

"My parents were immigrants from Vietnam. They’d been through a war, and they didn’t want their child to go through the same hardships they went through, so they tried to control my life as much as possible. For them, control was love. But I had to move away from it."

springwise:

Crowdfunded goods at crowd-determined prices
Platforms such as Kickstarter and Etsy have enabled a whole generation of crafters and creatives to market their unique goods, and we’ve even seen retail outlets dedicated to only selling work from independent talents in the form of sites like TinyLightbulbs. Now Singapore-based Haystakt is offering a twist on the crowdfunded model, dropping the price of artisanal products for every purchase made after the funding target has been reached. READ MORE…

springwise:

Crowdfunded goods at crowd-determined prices

Platforms such as Kickstarter and Etsy have enabled a whole generation of crafters and creatives to market their unique goods, and we’ve even seen retail outlets dedicated to only selling work from independent talents in the form of sites like TinyLightbulbs. Now Singapore-based Haystakt is offering a twist on the crowdfunded model, dropping the price of artisanal products for every purchase made after the funding target has been reached. READ MORE…

The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn.

—Gloria Steinem (via camewiththeframe)

(via stoweboyd)

We travel, some of us forever, to seek other states, other lives, other souls.(Anaïs Nin)

(Source: sad-plath, via thesoulselects)

ponder

Throw away their lives lusting after things, 
Never able to satisfy their desires, 
Falling into deeper despair 
And torturing themselves. 
Even if they get what they want 
How long will they be able to enjoy it? 
For one heavenly pleasure 
They suffer ten torments of hell, 
Binding themselves more firmly to the grindstone. 
Such people are like monkeys 
Frantically grasping for the moon in the water 
And then falling into a whirlpool. 
How endlessly those caught up in the floating world suffer. 
Despite myself, I fret over them all night 
And cannot staunch my flow of tears. 
- Taigu Ryokan

i am

having a hard time. they told me it would be a struggle but i underestimated the amount of life-consuming stress. this is not ideal, friends

this, in so many ways

Your needs don’t make you too much. They don’t make you selfish or weak or greedy. They make you human. We all have needs. And those hungers aren’t something we should feel ashamed of. They’re normal, we didn’t get enough of them as children hungers. Affections we’ve been deprived of by the people who are supposed to care for us. Connections we needed to feel whole and spaces we needed to feel safe. Cravings we’ve been taught we didn’t deserve. Appetites we’ve learned to suppress and fill with guilt. Again and again we’ve neglected our needs because we’ve been taught that they were too much— thatwe were too much. But we don’t have to any longer. You don’t have to.

Whether you need emotional support, alone time, physical affection, more communication, a connection with another human being, validation of your feelings, compassion, or reassurance that you are loved — it is more than okay to ask for what you need. Making your needs known isn’t about being demanding or selfish. It’s about self-care. It’s about creating a safer space for yourself. It’s about using your voice and speaking your truth. It’s about giving yourself permission to take up space. It’s about listening to your hungers and honoring them. It’s about letting go of the harmful messages you’ve internalized and trusting that you are deserving, worthy, and enough.